slides: Mum’s the Word: 5 Secrets for Surviving Toddler Tantrums
Friday, February 20, 2015
Then again, toddlers are also in possession of a lot of volatile emotions and have the uncanny ability of being able to transform from an angelic three year old to a creature that could easily be cast as the child star of a Wes Craven horror film.
See Slides Below: 5 Secrets for Surviving Toddler Tantrums
Last week, my three year old was just as happy as could be, as we were getting ready to leave for the day. Alas, everything was ruined when I committed the crime of grabbing the wrong sparkly shoes.
What followed, of course, was a fifteen-minute tantrum.
Suddenly, I became deeply empathetic with Jennifer Connelly’s iconic line from the film “Labyrinth,” “I can bear it no longer! Goblin King! Goblin King! Wherever you may be take this child of mine far away from me!”
I know I’m not the only parent who’s been there before.
You know…that parent who’s just about ready to fall on her sword but can’t because she neither owns a sword nor does she want to leave her child an orphan.
So instead, I decided to make a helpful list of my top five secrets for dealing with tantrums (see slideshow below).
Related Slideshow: 5 Secrets for Surviving Toddler Tantrums
Here are five secrets that I have found help with dealing with toddler tantrums.
2. Don’t Give In
I know it’s hard when ten minutes have passed, and this child of the corn is STILL crying. But please, for the love of God, stick to your initial instinct and don’t give your child the meat cleaver that he is crying for. Serious side note: When we give in to what our kids are screaming for, it proves that having tantrums is an effective way “to get what you want.”
3. Block Out the People Around You
If you’re in public, and at some point your child will have a tantrum in public, block out the people around you. Sure, they might be judging you and writing a Facebook status about how parents need to learn to handle their damn kids when they’re shopping. But who cares, what matters most is that you stay focused on your child and don’t stress yourself out further by worrying about what strangers, who you will never see again, thinks about you and your parenting skills.
5. Tell Them You Love Them
This doesn’t work 100% of the time, but it doesn’t hurt to remind your child that no matter how they behave, you will always be there for them, loving them. This might actually get your child to stop fighting you, or it might simply just be a good reminder for yourself. Either way, sometimes saying “I love you” is the best response we can offer.